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May 12, 2016

Accessing Love with the Power of Gratitude

Accessing Love with the Power of Gratitude

by Timothy J. Ryan, Ph.D.,D.Div.

The practice of gratitude as a tool for accessing love and happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

Heart Math has shown that when a person holds gratitude in their heart it increases their electromagnetic field 7 to 11 feet in contrast to fear, which shrinks the electromagnetic field.  Also The University of Riverside has shown that plants in a green house when compared with other plants in another green house grow significantly taller when there is a daily practice of gratitude toward them.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude is the perfect way to enhance our body mind and spirit. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: colorful autumn leaves, legs that work, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm jackets, tomatoes, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Dr. Emoto, a Japanese researcher, discovered that distilled water on a dish when frozen after a person focuses on gratitude will display a beautiful Chrystal shape.  What has put Dr. Emoto at the forefront of the study of water is his proof that thoughts and feelings affect physical reality. By producing different focused intentions through written and spoken words and music and literally presenting it to the same water samples, the water appears to “change its expression.”

One of the most beautiful picture from Dr. Emoto’s research is the picture of Love and Gratitude.


 Dr. Emoto is quoted as saying: “There is a special combination that seems to be perfect for this, which is love plus the combination of thanks and appreciation reflected in the English word gratitude. Just one of these is not enough. Love needs to be based in gratitude, and gratitude needs to be based in love.

These two words together create the most important vibration. And it is even more important that we understand the value of these words. For example, we know that water is described as H2O. If we were to look at love and gratitude as a pair, gratitude is the H and love is the O. Water is the basis that not only supports but also allows the existence of life. In my understanding of the concept of yin and yang, in the same way that there is one O and two Hs, we also need one part yang/love to two parts yin/gratitude, in order to come to a place of balance in the equation.”  Try paying attention to your breath and meditating on the word  Kan on the in-breath and Sha on the out breath or if more comfortable the words “Love” in breath receiving and “Gratitude” expressing on the out breath to interrupt you mind chatter and put you in harmony with optimal love and gratitude.

Dr. Emoto goes on to state that when you think of gratitude — a combination of appreciation and thankfulness — there is a humbling or apologetic quality. It’s a reverence for life and allows us realign ourselves with the beauty and harmony of life itself and receive the inspiration. The Japanese word for gratitude is kan-sha, consisting of two Chinese characters: kan, which means feeling, and sha, apology. It’s coming from a reverential space, taking a step or two back.

Dr. Emoto believes that love coming from this space is optimal love, and may even lead to an end to the wars and conflicts in the world. Kan-sha is inherent in the substance H2O – and the essence of life along with water being an essential element for life.

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude 

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
  • Make a daily list of things you are grateful for or make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. Instead of saying “I hate it when no one listens to me” say “I love it when people listen to me.” You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

Another way to access love through the power of gratitude is an exercise from Heart Math.  To raise your vibration and benefit your entire body think of someone you care about and close your eyes and cross your arms with both your palms pressing against your chest (like pledging to the flag only using both arms.) Now think of all the ways you care about them and everything you are grateful for having the person in your life while holding and being held by them. Hold this image of hugging them and visualize sending and receiving love for a full 20 seconds while slowly breathing in and out love. Heart Math says this is the best way to create coherence and raise and expand your electromagnetic field as well as raise your oxytocin

Dr. Timothy Ryan, Ph.D. D.Div.  has a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology and Divinity.  He is heart centered and uses his intuitive gifts to remove Blocks (clearing negative subconscious beliefs and limiting emotional patterns out to the body.) 

In addition to his intuitive gifts, Dr. Ryan uses a body/mind/spirit approach to counseling that includes the latest research and application of evidenced based approaches for individual and relationship healing. He believes in empowering individuals and couples to learn how to continue in their own healing and gain increasing confidence to trust their inner wisdom.  His goal is to support you in a fast track to peace and help you recover your sense of integrity and wholeness as quickly as possible.

Dr. Ryan loves sharing gentle, easy to learn, powerful techniques to help you discover a fast track to Health and  Peace of Mind and Personal Relational Healing and Fulfillment. He is heart centered and use his intuitive gifts to remove blocks (clearing sub- conscious beliefs and limiting emotional patterns out of the body) to support and free you to reach you ultimate goals. Clients consistently report the skills they have learned from our work together have given them more aliveness and connection to their own personal power and authenticity.  ( See Testimonies ).  He incorporates  Spiritual Psychotherapy, N.L.P., Energy Psychology and Holistic Integrative Medicine and Matrix Reimprinting with Depth Hypnosis to varying degrees.  See

For the past thirty years, he has been helping, Adults, Couples, Parents and Children, as well as Business Professionals ground with their bodies, lead with their hearts and soar with their spirits. 

Dr. Ryan and his wife Donna Ryan, MA. are also Co- Directors and Founders of AIWP, Miracles Ministry.  At AIWP we offer scholarships for counseling services as well as professional fee for service sessions.  Either way,  you will receive professional, compassionate care and support that will help you immediately improve numerous aspects of your life.  You will also gain confidence in yourself to become empowered to learn the latest personal and relationship healing and enrichment tools to transform your health, wealth and relationships to go to the next level.  see